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Author’s arm, 29 April 2026

unsame arm

at 8 years of age

it lay on the slanted top of a 3rd-grade desk

and its owner stared at it

wanted to remember it for the future

it was hairless satiny smooth

had a hand with stubby fingers

at 12 an allergist’s nurse made tiny wounds on it

in two rows

and painted the wounds with different stuffs

to test his allergic reactions

and strawberries cat dander and brazil nuts blazed

at 26 he did industrial deliveries

in a beat-up blue ford pickup truck

and he liked to drive with the window down

and rest his arm on the window ledge

and let it fry in the desert sun

in the days before sunscreen

at 53 he pedaled his bicycle at high speed

east on the sidewalk and cobblestones

by camelback road

when at once a jeep cherokee sprang from an alley

and he squeezed the front brake before the back

sending him over the handlebars

and into s l o w m o t I o n

and in that protracted split second

he watched his forearm kiss cobblestones

and slide on them

burning off epidermis

before he could react

here and now and four months and a day

before his seventy-second birthday

the old man looks at his old arm

which like he is battered but serviceable

the road rash has slowly healed over sixteen years

with scar tissue now comprising only 20%

of the original wound

and in the 63 years since the 3rd grade

his left arm and hand has thrown hardballs and darts

embraced hundreds of friends and a dozen lovers

combed his hair from shoepolish brown

to silver-glinted grey

and molded and vesselized tons of clay

and let the clay and the lovers and friends and sun

mold him as well

November 2015 I answered an ad calling for restaurant workers at the airport; got a Cashier/Host gig at Matt’s Big breakfast in Terminal 4 right by Gate B5 at Phoenix Sky Harbor Int’l Airport; gave two weeks’ notice in September of 2022; had some glorious semi retirement adventures; reapplied for work with parent company SSP America after doing a three-week prep cook training course; was hired as a prep cook for the SSP Commissary in May of 2023; was tapped for tomato-slicing duty by Chef Adam that November. My main job since then has been running thousands of tomatoes through a manual hand-slicer with multiple parallel blades. Over two-plus years I have gotten to be good at it. It is not rocket science, but it does involve some choreography, especially when I start running out of tomatoes.

My good-humored co-workers call me “Mr. Tomato” or “Tomatoman” on occasion. That is fine with me. I strive to be the best Tomatoman I possibly can be. And to the other Tomatofolks out there, amateur or professional, I salute you. May your tomatoes ever be firm yet not underripe!!

When I was growing up our family library included books of fairy tales, and one of my favorites was The Wonder Clock by Howard Pyle. And my favorite of the twenty-four stories in that book was “How Boots Befooled the King.” The book is in the public domain now, and I urge interested parties to find it via Google Books or Project Gutenberg. It is lavishly illustrated in glorious detail by the author.

“How Boots Befooled the King” came to mind because tomorrow is April Fool’s Day, a day for practical jokes and pretense. It was once my favorite holiday. The challenge of coming up with believable fakery delighted me.

One memorable April Fool’s Day in the late 20th Century I called my mother and crestfallenly asked her if it would be OK if I stayed in her guest house a few days–domestic trouble at home; looks like a divorce is in the cards. She bought it hook, line and sinker, and was furious when I “April Fool!!”ed her, but also enormously relieved that it was a joke. (Alas, in 2004 or thereabouts it started to become obvious that the marriage wasn’t working out. We were growing apart. Eventually we agreed to stay together until our daughter had finished her education. The divorce was finalized on December 19, 2011.)

One prank I pulled right before an April Fool’s Day 5K footrace called the “Fools 5K” in the early 90s, which I and my running pal George had signed up for, happened just before the airhorn sounded to start the race. I looked George in the eye and said, “Hey, George, some advice. Whatever you do during this race…try your best not to think of the Jetson’s theme song.” Poor George was doomed to run every step of the three-miles-plus with the obnoxious “Meet George Jetson…” theme song looping in his head. In my defense, at least it was only a 5K and not a marathon. And I bought lunch after, to make up for my mischief.

My Sweetheart Donna had a younger brother, Scott, who was born on April Fool’s Day. “I teased him mercilessly on his birthday,” she says, calling him an April Fool and “Scott the Snot” and “Scott the Pot.” But she couldn’t fool him. “He was so much smarter than I was, or ever will be.” She loved him profoundly, and he loved her. Tragically, Donna lost Scott to the AIDS epidemic. She grieves, and always will.

I wonder if and how I will celebrate April Fool’s Day tomorrow. I feel too old and sober-sided to pull any shenanigans, especially in these harrowing times. Most likely I will do a search on “April Fool’s Day pranks” and vicariously enjoy other people’s japes. And I will definitely do a search for Norman Rockwell’s famous April Fool’s Day painting, wherein all kinds of crazy-impossible things happen, including birds flying upside down.

I hope you have an uplifting and good-foolish April Fool’s Day tomorrow, Friends. 🙂

some of my drawings have been unearthed

from my primitive single-acrostic days

and fearless experimenting with colored markers

portraits of alfred stieglitz and jennifer hudson

musings and meanderings

done in a different lifetime

..

they distract

and i must get back to what i was doing

so I will put them aside

aside from this one

of my piano-playing

angelic

tongue-sticking-out friend

who has since found her soulmate

and changed her last name to his

When I was eleven years old/A sixth-grade student at a middle school called Unit VI/My homeroom teacher was Mrs. Virginia Holmberg

She was strict and forbidding/But an early pioneer of behavior modification/Incentivizing as she did/A perfect week of spelling scores/with the reward of a candy bar

And she read us an exciting Horatio Alger story once with each chapter ending in a bad-luck cliffhanger

But she also heaped out scorn in quantity/Shaming a kid who’d written his name on his desk top with//”Fools’ names and Fools’ faces/Are often seen in public places.”

So one fateful day she was talking about how breathtaking the sight of Halley’s Comet was…

And I, the runny-nosed know-it-all, the smallest kid in the class, saw a delightful opportunity…

And my hand shot up and Mrs. Holmberg nodded and me and said, “Yes?”…

And I said, “Mrs. Holmberg, wasn’t the last time Halley’s Comet came close to Earth…in 1910??”

Many class members gasped/In astonishment/at the revelation of how OLD Mrs. Holmberg must be/And I could swear she blushed/But then a little self-deprecating smile came to her face/And she said, “Why, yes. But I was only a little girl then.”

And that moment revealed Mrs. Holmberg to me

As a little girl still.

fifty-eight years ago today/I was in an operating room at st. joseph’s hospital/with a doctor reaching into my nose/and excising with his instrument/a gaggle of nasal polyps/of various sizes

then the doc jammed a yard/of packing material into my nasal cavity/to staunch bleeding

and the removal of that packing/produced the most intense pain i have ever felt/to this day

and second place goes/to when dr. frerichs in a subsequent visit/again reached into my nose/to pluck out developing scabs/to minimize scar tissue

and a distant third is the time/i tore off most of the skin of my left big toe/in a bike accident/when i was barefoot

but back to that scar tissue/minimized or not it and more polyps/have appeared in two mris/done five years apart/in my right sphenoid sinus

and that that region is unchanged/in five years/is great news

and I love the word “sphenoid”/so i am overall good/with my nose now

a long time ago i was a ten-year-old kid and i was going to new york with my family in a t w a airplane and we were going to spend a few days on the island of manhattan

and i had a next-door neighbor friend named david hilyard or it might have been hillyard and we hung out together a lot and i told him about the trip and in a combination of bigshot-itis and a genuine wish to somehow have him enjoy the trip too i told him i would buy him a souvenir

next thing you know there i was at the u n building which looked like a giant glassy cereal box and in the gift shop they had a ballpoint pen with the u n insignia on it

and i bought it for david but here’s the thing i never gave it to him

and in fact i avoided him all the way up to when he and his family moved away

and though i don’t know exactly why i betrayed him that way I do know it wasn’t because i wanted to keep the pen

my guess is i was messed up psychologically and there was a weird mental membrane blocking me and not only did i betray david but also the self i could have been had i more gumption

so I now unburden myself s little by saying i’m sorry not only to david wherever he is

but to little gary as well

Once upon a time there were these two guys, Jeff and Gary, who worked for a safety equipment company run by Gary’s dad, and sometimes after work or at lunch Jeff would break out his guitar and a few songbooks

And they would sing Beatles songs or Tom Petty or Bob Welch or The Who or some of Jeff’s original songs or Jeff’s brother Danny’s stuff (“Cord Whippin Mama” was a real saga)

And then one day in 1983 Jeff suggested that Gary buy a guitar and a little Gorilla amp

And he did and some more songbooks too like Great Songs of the 60s and Jackson Browne and another bigger Beatles book and Bob Dylan

So they played stuff and then Marty K came back to town and he had what he called a Good Smellin Bad Guitar and he joined in

And the fledgling band was christened The Snot Dogs and Marty who couldn’t always be there took to saying “We are The Snot Dogs/The Snot Dogs are we/Sometimes there’s two/And sometimes there’s three”

And fellow GHS alumni Charlie and George got the word from Marty and there started to be get-togethers mostly in Jeff’s living room

And Marty went off to law school and before long fellow law school students Karen, who played fiddle, and Vicki, who played flute, started coming to the sessions

And one fateful night at Jeff’s the heavily pregnant audience member Joni, who was Gary’s wife at the time, let Gary know between songs that she had felt something that may have been a contraction

So Joni and Gary left to give birth to their daughter while the band played on

For many years.

marble loss

“lost his marbles”
is idiomatic
for his loss of either sense
or intelligence.

here are two true stories
about childhood loss of real marbles
and one developing story
about my shrinking brain.

the first story is about my brother harold
and his marbles in a popcorn box
and the racecourse known as turf paradise
and its corrugated patio-style roof.

briefly, harold took his box of marbles
to our family outing day at the races
and somehow the box got kicked over
and the marbles rattled down

the corrugated roof
onto the heads
of some of the spectators below.
whoops!

the second story is of my business enterprise
in middle school wherein
i filled a plastic toy gumball machine
with lots of cheap marbles and five good ones.

it was like a slot machine. a kid with a penny
could try his luck hoping to get a bumblebee
but most of the time getting a cateye or clearie.
one fine day i made nineteen cents

which in 1964 could buy you three candy bars
and three bazooka joe bubble gums
and at five percent there was but one cent tax.
a fortune!

and i found a loophole
in the school rule forbidding the stashing
of marbles in your desk
by keeping them ON my desk

in the gumball machine, brazenly showcasing
my wares. sweet, shy miss morse did not
say a thing. i suspect she knew
that my business would soon go bust,

and it did, spectacularly, due to the desktop
being slanted, and young gary being careless
and clumsy: my elbow toppled the gumball
machine, and it fell to the floor and the cheap

plastic shattered, and the marbles
fled like the scarabs
in that movie about a mummy
and miss morse had the marbles brought

to her desk, where they remained
until the end of the school year when she
most graciously gave them back to me
just in time for summer.

we now come to my brain
which has been revealed to be shrinking
(comparison of my 2019 mri to last month’s)
beyond the norm for an elderly patient.

i have lost neurons. the condition is known
as “brain atrophy.” i have what the doc calls
a “neuropsychological test” coming up soon.
i hope i do better than i did

on the cognitive test they’ve already given me.
meanwhile, my way of not going gentle
is by journaling and poetry.
this is both.

“We are in the fight.” My friend Irma Pacheco took this selfie of the two of us on Thanksgiving Day, which was Day 3 of our Unite Here Local 11 union’s strike to get a fair contract with SSP America. Irma has put her heart and soul into improving the lot of our community. I am proud to be her friend.

The strike will officially end–for now–at midnight tonight. We have won two sessions at the bargaining table, starting next week. So I will put this clean Strike Laundry away. I will be happy to return to work tomorrow morning, and I will be overjoyed when a fair contract is achieved.

But I and my fellow Union members know that the fight is not over. Should negotiations fail, we will put our shirts back on, load and unload vans full of protest signs and bullhorns and banners and tables and five-gallon drums and drumsticks, and go right back out there again, for justice, fairness, and our families.